Pup Night has been a monthly event at the Black Eagle Toronto for nearly 8 years. It has always been open to everyone regardless of experience level, sexuality, or gender.
One of the Black Eagle Kennel Klub’s long-term members has been a trans-woman…Ms. Leather Toronto 2015 Luca. We’ve had a few other trans pups attend and a few cis (straight, bi, and lesbian) females; but our pup moshes have been predominantly male.
The BEKK has made an effort to be inclusive and we’ve reached out to the trans and female communities, but with little success. After investigating this situation, I’ve discovered there are some major misconceptions out there about our group and event. I will attempt to address a few of them now:
MISCONCEPTION #1 – Women are unwelcome at the Black Eagle.
This is the one I’ve heard most often. It is both unfortunate and utterly false. Many years ago there WAS an employee of the Eagle who repeatedly told women they were not welcome in the bar…which is largely why he’s no longer employed there. Not only is the Black Eagle Toronto open to the female & trans communities, they have been encouraged to hold their own events in the bar. Furthermore, for several years there was even a Ms. Black Eagle title contest and the Ms. Leather Toronto contest was resurrected a few years ago (and is still going strong).
MISCONCEPTION #2 – Female pups will get hurt among all the rough-housing.
Over the years, we have seen how some pups do indeed like to rough-house, but many more simply want to play and socialize. Because of this reality, years ago we began having separate areas in our mosh…one with wrestling mats and one with thinner rubber mats…and we ALWAYS have play monitors. Rough play is only permitted on the wrestling mats. When two pups square off, the monitors make sure they stay in the designated area. Any pups who get too rough in the socializing area are quickly addressed by the monitors.
MISCONCEPTION #3 – Pup Nights are very (male on male) sexual.
Full nudity is indeed allowed (and purely optional) in our pup mosh; but actual sexual play is not permitted nor is non-consensual contact. Any male pups who want more sexual interaction must leave the pup mosh and go upstairs to the Dark Room. Females are not allowed in the Dark Room except during special events exclusively for females. Again, all play is closely monitored and no non-consensual interactions are permitted. If any pup or spectator isn’t minding their manners they get only ONE warning from the monitors. Failure to heed that warning will result in the offending individual being expelled from the event and quite possibly banned from the bar.
The Black Eagle Kennel Klub’s #1 Rule has always been “If you can’t play nice, then you can’t play at all.” I think the fact our group and event have been consistently growing for almost 8 years is a testament to that philosophy.
I hope members of the trans, female, bi, straight, queer, genderqueer, and other communities who are interested in Puppy Play will stop listening to gossip and rumours and instead drop in to one of our events to see for themselves and to get information from the source…us.
We’d love for you all to join in the fun.